Rohan Misthry

But That Happened Years Ago! Sometimes people can experience difficult feelings or thoughts that seem disconnected from what is happening in their present life. They may have experienced something difficult many years ago and feel that they have “moved on”, only to be surprised when anxiety, other difficult emotions or memories emerge later. A common belief is that because so much time has passed, it can't be possible that the experience is still affecting us. However, the pa

Many people who come to counselling frequently describe to me a constant feeling of anxiety that seems difficult to switch off. Their minds may feel busy, they find themselves overthinking conversations, worrying about the future, or feeling permanently on edge. Sometimes there is a clear reason for this anxiety, but often people struggle to understand why it feels so persistent. When anxiety becomes a regular part of daily life, it can be easy to see its symptoms as the prob

Trauma can affect people in very different ways. This article explores why some experiences feel overwhelming for some people and not others, and how counselling can help.

Recognising trauma as a personal experience Sometimes we can experience events in our life that are highly stressful and difficult to cope with. We might see these experiences as examples of trauma. How we understand something as traumatic is very personal and subjective, other people can’t know or decide what is or has been traumatic for you. Even two people who experience the same event, where both understand it as traumatic, can react to it very differently. Examples of t

Much of what we experience in our lives is out of our direct control. We cannot determine where we are born, when and to whom. As children we have little choice about the environment we grow up in. Even as adults living in a generally democratic and free society, we may feel powerless at times about the government, social issues and perhaps how things are changing or perhaps how things are staying the same. Internally, we cannot directly control much of our own thoughts that