Rohan Misthry

Recognising trauma as a personal experience Sometimes we can experience events in our life that are highly stressful and difficult to cope with. We might see these experiences as examples of trauma. How we understand something as traumatic is very personal and subjective, other people can’t know or decide what is or has been traumatic for you. Even two people who experience the same event, where both understand it as traumatic, can react to it very differently. Examples of t

Finding your own way, or even ways, to say goodbye to the person you loved might be an important part of your experience of grief.

How are you doing at the moment? I’ve noticed myself recently feeling a lack of motivation and energy to do things, more so than I normally would. I’ve been trying to write this blog post for some time and have really struggled with finding the motivation to do so. Anecdotally, speaking with friends, family, colleagues and clients it seems that I am not the only one experiencing this too. Many of them report feeling, unmotivated, fed up, tired, feeling teary at times, angry,

In the last 6 months much of how we work, learn and spend our free time has moved online through necessity. Counselling has been no exception to this and is largely being practiced now via online video call. Despite this change coming from necessity because of the Covid 19 pandemic, from my experience both as a counsellor and someone having had counselling online, it has some unexpected positive aspects to it over face-to-face counselling. Convenience One of the main benefits

Much of our lives and what we experience is out of our control. And so being able to tolerate and live with uncertainty becomes an important

There are times in life where all of us will need help or support of some sort. For many of us, asking for help can be one of the hardest th

The challenge of social isolation and distancing As a way of responding to the threat of the Corona Virus, people in countries from all across the world are being asked, and ordered, to drastically reduce their social interactions with others to limit the spread of the virus. This will be a necessary but stressful experience for a large amount of people for a number of reasons. We are social animals, and often in times of difficulty and uncertainty one of the best ways we can

The Pandemic of Fear We are living in interesting times. The initial outbreak of the Corona Virus has gone in a few months from a local virus outbreak in China to becoming a global pandemic, with thousands infected across the globe and as of writing, Europe now as the centre of the pandemic. It has been hard to keep up with the pace of events, I have had to rewrite this article several times for it to be relevant. As the Corona virus has spread another unseen epidemic has als

When we talk and think about loss and bereavement it is often in relation to when someone dies. There are however many other different types of loss not involving someone's death that can often bring about a similar process of grief and its accompanying feelings. Often other types of loss are brushed over or not acknowledged by others and even ourselves. We might then feel confused or that there is something wrong with us when we experience grief and it’s accompanying emotion

Loss and death are natural parts of life that we often struggle to talk and even think about. There is a large taboo around talking about death in western culture; as adults we all know that one day we are all going to die and yet we spend so little time talking about this or its consequences. Perhaps part of our aversion to the topic is that it is part of a larger phenomena in Western culture where some emotions are seen as negative and to express or talk about them is seen

Going to counselling for the first time can seem like taking a leap into the unknown. Whilst mental health and counselling is being talked about more openly than ever, there is still a lot of misinformation out there about what counselling is and how it works practically. Most people’s understanding of what counselling is like often comes from tv, films and books. There the counsellors and therapists are often depicted behaving bizarrely, without appropriate boundaries and un

Much of what we experience in our lives is out of our direct control. We cannot determine where we are born, when and to whom. As children we have little choice about the environment we grow up in. Even as adults living in a generally democratic and free society, we may feel powerless at times about the government, social issues and perhaps how things are changing or perhaps how things are staying the same. Internally, we cannot directly control much of our own thoughts that

Do you feel that you are trying very hard to change something in your life or something about you but no matter how hard you push yourself to change, you don’t end up getting the results or outcomes you desire? Do you find you can force some change in the short term but it doesn’t stick and you soon fall back into your old habits and patterns? A core concept of Gestalt Therapy is the idea that the more you try to actively change yourself to be something that you are not, the

Have you ever found yourself not being able to stop thinking about something? Maybe you keep replaying an argument you had or a situation at work or a problem in your personal life. The same thoughts keep going round and round in your head and each time they do you feel even more worried and distressed? To varying degrees, we all experience this phenomena at some points in our life, that catchy tune or line from a song that gets stuck on repeat in your head. However research